Allah (SWT) created humankind weak by nature and they are to be tested in this worldly life. They become angry and happy, they grieve and rejoice, they become sick and recover to enjoy their health and the wise among them are the patient ones. On the other hand, there are some who get angry and become enrage, they insult and their anger reaches to the level of craziness. They unjustly beat and fight others, shout at them and even cruse them. They sometimes bring major harms to their families and societies.
Anger is an extremely dangerous trait fraught with fearful results. Without a doubt, it is an evil burning ember in the hearts, which has many bad results and through which Satan brings many harms and difficulties to the life of a believer. Anger may ruins the life of a Muslim both in this world and in the Hereafter. It may force him to commit sins, disturbs his relationship with others and it has many other bad effects.
A short-tempered person always feels himself disturbed and embarrassed concerning his life. He presents many excuse and apologies to those he has abused and cursed in the time of his anger and even regrets for what he has done.
In this article we will talk about the person who occasionally gets angry, affects him, leads him to commit mistakes and face dangers and causes many problems in his relationships with others. Such person can easily get rid of the angeror at least reduce its severity and with the passing of the time he will be able to get rid of it totally. One can successfully get rid of the anger if he sincerely and honestly follows these steps:
Control Your Anger Issues
- A person should know that anger is the key of every evil and to get rid of anger is the key of all good qualities, therefore, the Prophet (PBUH) advised a man not to become angry and furious while he asked about the good qualities. This advice of the Prophet (PBUH) indicates that avoiding and getting rid of anger is the key of every good quality.
- A person should realize his personality and he should know the nature, causes and circumstances of his anger. By doing so, he will be able to get rid of his anger whenever he becomes angry and furious or at least he will control himself.
- One should avoid the situations which cause him anger. Such as: Lack of sleep, waking up from sleep, hunger and travelling. Every person has a different kind of nature some people easily become anger in such situations and they must avoid mixing with other in such cases.
- One should strive hard to avoid angerand take refuge in Allah (SWT) from the Satan. If consciously refuge in Allah (SWT) is sought, the fire of anger and rage cools down automatically, because rage is incited by Satan. In the Holy Quran and in the Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH) it has been ordered to seek refuge in Allah (SWT) from Satan. Narrated Sulaiman bin Surad (RA): Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet (PBUH) while we were sitting with him. One of the two abused his companion furiously and his face became red. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“I know a word (sentence) the saying of which will cause him to relax (i.e., he will calm down). Only if he says: ‘I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the outcast.’” (Al-Bukhari 6115).
This Hadith indicates that extreme anger over personal things is from the promptings of Satan, while anger for the sake of Allah is part of Faith.
- A person should change his position, if he is sitting, should stand up and if standing, should sit down or lay down and vice versa, because the Prophet (PBUH) said:
“If one of you becomes angry when he is standing, let him sit down, and if the anger goes away (all well and good), otherwise let him lie down.” (Abu Dawud 4782).
- A person should perform Wudu (ablution), for it has good effects on the Muslim, it purifies him both inwardly and outwardly, it helps him to abate anger and enables him to overpower the Satan. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Anger comes from the Satan, and the Satan was created from fire, and fire is extinguished by water, so if one of you gets angry, let him perform Wudu (ablution).” (Abu Dawud 4784).
- The main step that should be taken against the evils of anger is that one must keep silent and should not quarrel with others, either by words or by taking actions. This silence will keep him away from the evils and fire of anger. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Teach and make things easy and not difficult. When one of you is angry, he should be silent.” (Sahih Al-Jami 4027).
- One should remember Allah, praise and glorify Him. For it will keep the Satan and the evils of the anger away from him and bring peace and tranquility to his heart.
In this day and age, we find that anger overcomes many of us, makes fun of him and forces him to behave like a child with others. We observe that even well-educated, teachers and civilized people commit many mistakes due to their anger and it indicates the level of bad behaviors, ethics and morals that exist in our societies. Most of us regret for the words that they utter and for the actions that they commit while they become angry. Such bad and evil behavior creates many problems among societies.
Controlling anger sometimes is very difficult. But forgiving others instead of acting according to one’s anger at such occasions is in fact an act of real bravery. It is quite a demanding task to suppress one’s emotions, particularly at the time of burning rage (anger). Anyone who bridles this angry horse and curbs his anger for the sake of Allah, Allah will invite him before all His creation on the Day of Resurrection and will reward him by giving him the choice and option of choosing anyone of the Huris (fair-colored damsels of Paradise). May Allah benefit us from this opportunity. Ameen!