It is the greatest blessings of Almighty Allah that He made the house as a shelter and a place of peace for us, in which we live in peace, our souls get complete tranquility, deal one another with mercy and achieve our chastity and purity. House is a place where children find their true love, arise in good atmosphere and relief themselves from hardships and fatigue. It is a safe shelter to protect us from evils and a refuge prescribed by our true religion at time of fitnah (tribulation).
Almighty Allah says:
“And Allah has made for you in your homes an abode.” (An-Nahl 16:80)
Undoubtedly, homes and houses are places of peace and tranquility but in this day and age there is no home without disputes, disagreements and miseries, especially, between wife and husband. To resolve this issue we need to discuss its remedies in the following lines and paragraphs.
Domestic problems, fights and disputes are common nowadays in every home. This topic is quite important and can be an integral part of every couple’s life. Even the happiest couples have been failed to escape fight phase and disputes between them, despite they once thought that they are the perfect couple and nothing wrong can happen between them or ruin their exemplary marital relationship.
Following are some ways and steps to be fulfilled in order to save your marriage and have a peaceful environment in homes.
Fearing Almighty Allah
The best way to save your marriage as a wife and husband, both should fear Almighty Allah regarding their rights. Each of them should fulfill the rights of other in good manner; particularly, the husband should fear Allah much regarding his wife. The beloved Prophet (PBUH) urged his Ummah to fear Allah regarding their life partners. In his last sermon he (PBUH) said:
“Fear Allah with regards to women, for you have taken them (in marriage) with the trust of Allah, and their private parts have been made permissible for you with the words of Allah.” (Muslim 1218)
Fulfilling the rights
Allah Almighty says:
“And live with them honorably.” (An-Nisa 4:19)
And live with them honorably, includes civic behaviors of both words and deeds. The husband is obliged to treat his wife with kindness and love, offering her beautiful company, not tormenting her or giving her agony, and behaving toward her with respect and justice. All her essential needs, such as food, clothing, etc, are included in this. Therefore, according to the conventions of the ear, the husband is obliged to give her rights equal to that which they demand in their personal circumstances. Their rights and obligations may be a little different depending on the circumstances of the partners.
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The Prophet (PBUH) said in his last sermon regarding spouse rights:
“And your right upon them is that they do not allow anyone that you do not like to tread on your bedding. If they do (some sin), hit them without causing any wounds. And their rights over you is their sustenance, and their clothing, according to what is customary.” (Muslim 1218)
Justice, Equality and Fairness
Regarding these step, men who are married to more than one wife are urged and required to behave all his wives with justice, fairness and equality. This includes provision, clothing, housing, and sharing his time, concerns and intimate relations.
Almighty Allah says:
“But if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess.” (An-Nisa 4:3)
Perhaps it is one of the important steps in resolving the disagreements between spouses and it is the biggest reason why a believer must adopt forgiveness and forgive people even he/she is right in taking the revenge. It is the fact that forgiveness is one of the qualities of our Supreme Lord. Our Lord has numerous best qualities that mentioned in the Holy Quran and forgiving is one of the dominant one of them. Almighty Allah commanded us to forgive one another, He says:
“Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (An-Nur 24:22)
Keeping good relationship
The Prophet (PBUH) guided his Ummah to keep good relationship between husband and wife and he (PBUH) is a better example in this regard. He (PBUH) commanded us to overlook one another mistakes and live better life. He (PBUH) said:
“No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” (Muslim 1467)
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Islam urges us to keep good relations with our wives, overlook their faults and mistakes, should not beat them and be kind and merciful with them in all walks of life. One of the great sings of the Benevolence, Mercy and Power of Allah, the High and Exalted, is that He Almighty created for mankind mates from themselves, so that they are comforted, satisfied and aided by one another. The basic principle and foundation of the society is the family, and the husband and the wife are co-partners in that family upon which a Muslim home is established. For the success of the family and the tranquility of the home, Islam grants each spouses certain rights and duties. Such rights and duties must be fulfilled in accordance to their ability. Each of them is responsible for other’s rights and duties. They must cooperate in this regard and live a peaceful life forever.
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